Are you getting counseling? If not you should. I thought I was handling things well but went when my attorney suggested someone she thought would be a good fit - and she is. It gives me a place to vent without judgement and work through the anger and pain I feel. Just a suggestion. Before you judge everyone on this site -- you need to look at your issues. I sense a great deal of anger.

Hazeleyes, here is a little constructive criticism--your response to Tam81 was way off target. My guess is you're so caught up in the abuse you're receiving from your guy's ex that you are projecting your experiences onto Tam. Her situation is entirely different. Because you over-identified with her stbx, you missed obvious signs of HIS being emotionally abusive and controlling.That projection makes it difficult to trust what you post because it means your vision is heavily filtered. You should work on divorcing yourself from what you read so that you can see it for what it is and then offer counsel, constructive counsel, out of that. My guess is you have valuable things to say, but you're getting in your own way.

Hi, welcome to d360. Here’s a quicky ‘how-to-get-started’ note. 1.You can do everything from here, your MyStuff/Profile page. At the top is your SCROLL. When your friends/people you follow, post something new, it will show up here. It’s live and in real time. 2. Post a new QUESTION. See where it says ADVICE? Click Add New and type a question. When you hit submit, the entire site can see it, read it and comment on it. 3. Post a new BLOG. Click Add New up at the Blog section. Advice/Questions are usually shorter questions that need answers now….and blogs are longer, personal stories or vents. 4. See if anyone commented on your questions and blogs and if they did, comment back. 5. Read other members questions and blogs and give them your thoughts. 6. Follow people. When you see the follow button/get alerts link, and you like that members posts or that topic, click it. You will be alerted when they post. 7. This area here is your Wall. It’s for semi-private notes or jokes between members. Hope this helps. Let me know if you have any questions. Thanks, Paula