Thanks Falcon. You're right, I shouldn't look to her for support. Probably should've used a different word. Like maybe understanding. When she asked me for money and I told her feeling shamed, "I don't have any." Then she stomps off in a huff, "her dad will give her what she wants." Probably silly of me to think she'd realize, since he wasn't helping to support us in any way, mom wouldn't have any, so, why make her feel shamed in front of my friends when I ask her for money.......hmmmm.....yer totally right. My boys are totally the opposite though. They're older and he put them through hell also. I will get counselling asap, but I'm still trying to pay her (counselling) off. Yes, I agree. She certainly doesn't want a parent. I guess I drove her away trying to enforce rules, curfews, etc. Shame on me! Thanks for the words though...much appreciated.

falcon, thank you for your response.i need someone to kick me in the butt and tell me to just let go.. thanks. i know that i will be better off once i am on the mend.

Hi, I am going down momof4illinois friends list and asking everyone if they have heard anything from her. There is a concern if she is okay or not. If you have heard from her or about her, can you let others know. People on d360 are very concern. Thanks, chris