My thoughts for today.... I was reading the post on New Year's resolutions & someone had one about putting up white boards in the kitchen & drinking more - the gist being that she was going to work on being happy. I sat there & laughed because that is exactly what I am wanting too... just to be happy in my own skin... in the world I have created. A realistic world I can actually exist in. And, of course, finding happiness & contentment in life requires positive changes. I'm sooooo ready for that. I have been in a religion that bans a lot of socially accepted practices, like drinking. Things I honestly never thought were wrong, but accepted in order to fit in. Only I didn't fit in - I realize that now - I was isolating myself & basically making myself miserable. It is more of the dead weight I am shedding as I try to find out where I went & decide what I want out of my life. My resolution is similar to the other lady's. I'm going to drink more - not a lot- just more. (If I "go out with the girls" and want a glass of wine or a Pina Colada, I'm going to endulge in that.) So last night when I had the house to myself, I decided to crack open a "cold one". (Of course I had to go buy it first!) And this morning, I feel NO GUILT!!!! I'm feeling so happy to have made this first step toward reclaiming myself & my independence. I think my new life is going to be good. And I'm going to be OK.

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I read your story, can I ever relate. Throw in controlling and cruel and we could have been married to the same guy. Welcome to D360, this place has become a haven for me. The people are so caring and encouraging, even on my worst days I sign off feeling better. Hang in there, brighter days are ahead.