I was just reading something you posted and your "My Story" and this sentence you wrote just resonated with me.... "I have a lot more to gain in this divorce than I have to lose." In fact, your last paragraph made me laugh because since my stbxh moved out...I have had my friends over more often (he didn't like most of them - for no good reason...that's just the way he was), redecorated several rooms in the house (i always had to compromise with him - and he had awful taste!), made changes to the exterior of the house and even joined a bowling league again..(he hated bowling!). I have even been able to save money after paying the mortgage (by myself!) and other bills each month...something I was unable to do with the stbxh around! Sometimes in the beginning, it is hard to see that we may actually be better off by divorcing......hope you find it to be the case...I know it has been true for me! :)

I read everything in your "my story". It was a good read and thank you for your input. It is weird. Stories like yours force me to re-evaluate who I am and how I treat other people. Thanks again for your efforts!

Thanks for your comment you posted on my blog I appreciate that. It seems I have ticked some people off so it's nice to see someone agree with my opinion on this. Spaz (the attorney) has asked me thru an email to remove my blog and I have refused to do that because I'm only venting and speaking my opinion, and I thought that's what this site was for but I guess I'm wrong. It really hurts to see how my ex is treating the boys, I don't care what he does to me anymore becuz I'm a big girl now and can take care of myself, but don't screw with my boys. I'm sorry to see you are going thru the same thing and it's sad when the ex would rather be around the girlfriend then around their kids. I'm dealing with that right now myself and it's hard to see the hurt in their eyes. Especially since they didn't choose this to happen to them and I didn't choose this either. But thank you for your comments and I wish you all the luck. I agree that if we give our kids a loving and caring home with us that we will be doing the best thing for them. Take Care!! :)