I am new to this. How can I find people that have been, or are going through, a situation similar to mine, without trying to read through thousands of profiles? Thanks.

Amy no problem, I appreciate any response from anyone, so thank you so much. Today I told my wife I want a divorce. In Alberta under the grounds of adultery we can divorce on the same day. I have never felt better and this is one of the most important decisions I have ever made. I will survive. You know, I only had 3 days of anger. That's all. So I have come a long way. How on earth did you have so many kids? You have a huge responsibility in training them. I have raised loving, successfull boys (3) and they are my source of energy. The secret to raise such kids is this, because I know===They need love, security and excitement. If you don't give them excitement they will find it on their own and get into trouble. I was in a grocery store and a 4/5 year old was asked by his mother "what would you like for supper tonight?" How ridiculous is that? The parent should be the one to tell the children what they will eat and it would be of more nutrition. It is a new begining and I am looking forward to 2010 and perhaps planing a trip to Egypt to wipe my mind of all the bad feelings. You should make sure you get the support payments and you can also get half of his pension when he collects. You must be strong for the kids as they watch you. It is how we deal with our problems that defines us. If possible take a vacation away from your kids, as you will be of no use to them if you are not in a healthy state, preferably emotionally. I adored your comment, I don't get much in here but am thrilled to recieve any email who has gone through the pain that I have. I have empathy for people who went through this hell. This is a turning point in my life and am looking toward great days. Think positive as happiness is a choice. Enjoy the good things that you do have. You will have some bad days once in a while, but they are temporary. Encouragement is what we need and this is the place to recieve it. Write me sometime OK? Kev

Hi I am kevin.....................kevinotto53@yahoo.ca and I just started yesterday in here. I see you have had 6 kids? I have 3 boys 25, 27, 29 years old and they are successful in life. The oldest is single and travels the world in his employment. Anyway I know how to raise kids. My wife is a different story as she left for a 62 year old in n carolina just 2 months ago. I never seen it coming. So I am broken-hearted for now. We can talk later, but you are not obligated to respond. I am wacky these days...........KEV