Not all guys can run into a new relationship. For example, my wife is the one who is able to move on. I am the oine who has been depressed for over a year, with only slight improvement. I often cry at night when i think of how things were and might have been. Our first grandchild is due next spring. She is perfectly happy approaching this as a single women. It breaks my heart to have Gramma and Grampa coming from different households, etc. I only hear from her when she needs something. I am still the one holding on, and I have no good reason. We are done, she has told me this over and over again, and worse yet - shows it often.

Ya know, if you have done all you can do you can't look at your self doe the issues you are having. It sounds like you did alot. Heck, I would have been happy to have a hand written note for my birthday in the last few years. Its not the $ you spend its the feelings you convey. I feel for you. But, don't stop living just because she is changing. (I am great at advise, its following my own that is darn near impossible,) Best wishes and good luck to you.