Hi, just wanted to introduce myself. Your story has some shadows of my story. I've been the co-dependant/enabler myself, hahaha :) It's really wonderful to let that role go, scary, but wonderful. Hope today went well.

Hi, I am Kevin and can truely relate to your experience you left on a recent blog. Allow time for your heart and mind to adapt to what has happened. You are about to create an identity which will take time to accomplish. The way we deal with our problems identify us. So donot rush the process as it must run it's course. You will have good days and bad days, but trust me, things will get better. Decisions are the hardest thing to accomplish, so avoid making big decisions. Be good to yourself as we tend to be hard on ourselves. Look after yourself and keep busy as time is a great healer. Difficulties strengthen the mind as labour does the body. All these events of your past will be considered experience in time. There is always a positive aspect to anything and you must search very hard to find it. I am new to this divorce thing and I have empathy for women especially who have been cheated on by their mates. Please change your thought process to one that will keep you focused on healing yourself. It is your time now to care for you. Write me if you wish, I get excited when a new message comes in. Enjoy your week to the greatest extent possible............Kev

Hi, welcome to d360. I thought I would send you this quicky 'get started' email to help you figure out the site.

1. okay, this is your wall. Members leave semi-private notes or jokes here. Go to any members Profile page (by clicking on their name, and scroll down to the bottom…and there's the wall. You should check it often to see if anyone has left you a note.
2. We are on your Profile/MyStuff page right now. You can do everything from here. All of your friends are here, your blogs, comments and groups.
3. You have private email here as well. Upper right hand corner of this page is your Inbox link. Click it and you can send private emails to any member. Just type in their site name and send.
4. You can ask questions from here. Scroll up a bit from the wall and you'll see Advice. Click Add New and start typing a question. When you hit submit it will be published in real time to the community (and on the home page of the site). Everyone can see it, read it and comment on it. You can come back to it anytime you want to and read the comments from this page as well. Just click it and go.
5. You can post blogs here too. Blogs are usually longer and more detailed personalized stories. Scroll up a bit from here, see Blogs, click Add New and start writing.
6. If you like a members posts or a particular story, you can click the Follow button or the Alert Me link and you will be alerted via email whenever there is activity. I hope this helps. If you have any questions, let me know.

Thanks, Paula