Dee, I purposely left God out of the discussion because what I have observed are reactions not based on the heart of God, but on personal pain. So I cut him out and asked, "what then?" Because the reality is, all adultery is sin, and all sin is an offense against God. But I have NEVER seen here the same degree of self-righteous anger expressed at those who cheat when compared to those who, say, have extra-marital (but not adulterous) sex. And that bothers me. Is it legitimate to leave God out of the question? Yes and no, but that would have been a MUCH longer post, so I just took my lumps and went with it. *laughs* It makes me look like I hold a position that I don't really hold. You'd probably be shocked at how highly I value marriage, and how against divorce I am.

Dear Dee, I am NOT looking for support by my posts and my blog, I am trying to show people that divorce is not always the best answer. Breaking up a family over infidelity is not always the best choice. I hate to see a marriage of 30 years break up over sex. It is trivial compared to a lifetime of togetherness.

Hi, welcome to d360. Let me know if I can help with anything at all. I thought I’d send this quicky ‘how-to-get-started’ note and leave it on your wall. I hope it helps you. Here’s what I usually do here. Everyday I 1) log on to the site. Simply type in your email and password to get started, then I come here, to the MyStuff/Profile page so I can see if anyone has answered my blog or question. If they have, I click on it and answer them back. 2) then I check the ‘scroll’..that’s the stuff at the top of this page. It changes every time a friend does something, like post a blog or comment on a question. TRICK: the more friends you have here, the more your ‘scroll’ changes. So make sure to befriend lots of people. 3) then I usually change my status…that’s up there, on top of this page, by your name. click it and type in whatever you are doing…’getting coffee’ or ‘going to lunch’. When you update that, it notifies all of your friends in their scroll…so they know you are online now. 4) then I usually add a new question or a new blog post. That’s easy to do…from here look up a little on the page and see the words Blog and Advice. Right next to each one is “add new’. Click that and start typing. Hit submit and your post goes directly to the site home page for everyone to see and read and comment on. Blogs are usually longer and more detailed, while Advice/Answers are usually quick questions you need help on right now. Read some other members to get a feel for it and then start your own blogs and questions! 5) then I start answering other peoples stuff…I’ll read blogs and post my comments…and I’ll read questions and post my answers to try to help other people. That’s the goal here. All of our opinions and experiences really help. 6) then I’ll start writing on some of my friends wall…..that’s this area right here. It’s really good for quick questions to one member or personal jokes or a little note. 7)click the People tab to see what members have something in common with you (based on your tags) and say Hi. Thanks and welcome…paula