Actually I am not doing to well. I have a broken heart and such a thing takes time to heal. I have discovered that I have never loved her more, but such revelations come to late in my case. In the meantime I am trying to put my life together and move ahead by repainting my home and I purchased a new computer and television, if that helps? I assume your kids are grown? Mine are 26, 28 and 30. They are all successfull but are dealing with my wife's affair badly. How do these things happen? I do believe we will be better people in the end of all this. At the moment we donot discuss the situation any longer, only because it hurts. I hope you are in a good frame of thought these days, able to care for your horses should be rewarding. Above all it's important to consider your health, mental, physical, emotional and spiritual. I know that I am lacking in these areas as I have really only concentrated on physical health. Divorce is so unnatural, but sometimes necessary. I enjoy talking with you and gaining your insights into this area of post-divorce. Be well. Kev

Hi Deb, how are you doing? A decision is the hardest thing to achieve. Yet time and space can truely affect the mindset of anyone who is desirous of making an informed decision. I have not yet reached that place of luxury. When this is achieved I can see myself moving toward a new single life, which is very alien to me in all respects. I am only passing through the people I have met on this site, one of whom is you, and so I wish you well and would like to correspond with you at your earliest convienience.

prayer! everynight for the past three years i prayed to god that he would either let me go home or let me die! obviously neither has happened.so i stopped asking, stopped praying stopped going to church. why should i if god refuses to listen? do something about it? what?