How does one decide? I have been married for over 17 years now, to a military officer, three children, a house, dog, the American life. Children that idolize their father and think he is just the best. And now I am faced with some very life changing decisions. Not just for me but for the ones I love. I have been with him since high school and we have had so much fun and travels in our marriage. Along with his affairs. I know of two, one maybe a month long after 7 years of marriage…I forgave him and we started over and our relationship got much better than before…then the big one a three year affair....and that has came to a head in our relationship, I don’t know if I can stay and try to work things out…how do I go on? Or do i? do I move with him this summer to Hawaii for three years? Oh please god help me deicide!!! What is best for me, the kids….ect…I have no idea what I want or how to figure out what I want!!!

Hi, welcome to d360. Let me know if I can help with anything at all. I thought I’d send this quicky ‘how-to-get-started’ note and leave it on your wall. I hope it helps you. Here’s what I usually do here. Everyday I 1) log on to the site. Simply type in your email and password to get started, then I come here, to the MyStuff/Profile page so I can see if anyone has answered my blog or question. If they have, I click on it and answer them back. 2) then I check the ‘scroll’..that’s the stuff at the top of this page. It changes every time a friend does something, like post a blog or comment on a question. TRICK: the more friends you have here, the more your ‘scroll’ changes. So make sure to befriend lots of people. 3) then I usually change my status…that’s up there, on top of this page, by your name. click it and type in whatever you are doing…’getting coffee’ or ‘going to lunch’. When you update that, it notifies all of your friends in their scroll…so they know you are online now. 4) then I usually add a new question or a new blog post. That’s easy to do…from here look up a little on the page and see the words Blog and Advice. Right next to each one is “add new’. Click that and start typing. Hit submit and your post goes directly to the site home page for everyone to see and read and comment on. Blogs are usually longer and more detailed, while Advice/Answers are usually quick questions you need help on right now. Read some other members to get a feel for it and then start your own blogs and questions! 5) then I start answering other peoples stuff…I’ll read blogs and post my comments…and I’ll read questions and post my answers to try to help other people. That’s the goal here. All of our opinions and experiences really help. 6) then I’ll start writing on some of my friends wall…..that’s this area right here. It’s really good for quick questions to one member or personal jokes or a little note. 7)click the People tab to see what members have something in common with you and say Hi. Thanks and welcome…paula