Hi daniela5 It has been 8 months since my ex has left. We have been divorced since Mar 2009. He too has hinted at changing this or stopping the divorce prior to it being final. The last time I spoke to him was a 7/2/09. I told him that it was best if we did not speak due to the ups and downs of his decisions. I think if he would have not hinted at this being a mistake I would have been much better off. So I too know that even though it has been over a year since he left you, it is still fresh if he had been saying things to possibly come back. I just wanted you to know that after reading your response to "How do you get through the Nights" I too still have difficulty during the nights. I hope for us all that this does get easier to the point where it is no longer the focus of our lives. Take care.

Hi. Saw your post on my blog about the other woman having my STILL husband's baby. It really is incomprehensible how people can just abandon their families like that. I'll never understand. His own family fights and makes up and fights again. These are people he didn't choose to be his family. But he chose me and chose to have a baby with me...after 12 years together, so it wasn't like we didn't know each other...and then after 8 months just walks out after a few e-mails and phone calls with a woman he hadn't seen in 15 years and was married herself with 2 children at the time. She divorced her husband for mine immediately and moved hundreds of miles and several states to a town 20 minutes from me. He's reliving our life with her. It's nuts. I know he's gone through "splitting" with me (Look it up if you haven't heard of it. It sucks.) We have the most beautiful, smart, happy, funny, well behaved boy you can imagine. I have full custody of him Thank God. He is my pure sunshine and joy throughout this nightmare. My husband is a Borderline Personality Disorder Narcissist. It explains how he can do this to us. I searched for months for answers before figuring out this diagnosis. It helps, but doesn't make it better. He has made all of my nightmares come true...my best friend turned into my worst enemy over night and single handedly destroyed my life. And people tell me to "just get over it already". Hard to do when I'm still married, living in a house that is going into foreclosure with no money, massive debt and destroyed credit. But I'll get through this and when I do I'll be in a much better place because I won't have that albatross making me work to support his habits (video games, music, movies, electronics, pot). Sorry this was long. This is the most painful thing we may ever deal with. It's hard to see others in my position.