Hey Condor, thanks for your post. I'm glad I helped you in some way. Funny how it's so easy to give others advice, but not to one's self. Also, I better you do not have the social skills of a lump of coal!! Hope you are well.

Thanks for your comments. I think I was so overwhelmed with guilt and wanting to be dignified about this process, but then I realized that I am being manipulated and he doesn't have to do anything. I went from being a stay at home mom, barely allowed to have a life outside the home to a professional woman who just got my MBA even through all this BS. I truly believes he thinks that as long as he has a job, I won't do anything. But today, I decided I will let my lawyer file the motion for posession and custody. I can't continue being manipulated nor having my kids mentally tortured by him. I hope I can survive financially as he destroyed everything we had. Best of luck to you.

Hi, welcome to d360. I thought I would send you this quicky 'get started' email to help you figure out the site.

1. okay, this is your wall. Members leave semi-private notes or jokes here. Go to any members Profile page (by clicking on their name, and scroll down to the bottom…and there's the wall. You should check it often to see if anyone has left you a note.
2. We are on your Profile/MyStuff page right now. You can do everything from here. All of your friends are here, your blogs, comments and groups.
3. You have private email here as well. Upper right hand corner of this page is your Inbox link. Click it and you can send private emails to any member. Just type in their site name and send.
4. You can ask questions from here. Scroll up a bit from the wall and you'll see Advice. Click Add New and start typing a question. When you hit submit it will be published in real time to the community (and on the home page of the site). Everyone can see it, read it and comment on it. You can come back to it anytime you want to and read the comments from this page as well. Just click it and go.
5. You can post blogs here too. Blogs are usually longer and more detailed personalized stories. Scroll up a bit from here, see Blogs, click Add New and start writing.
6. If you like a members posts or a particular story, you can click the Follow button or the Alert Me link and you will be alerted via email whenever there is activity. I hope this helps. If you have any questions, let me know.

Thanks, Paula