I read your response on revenge vs. forgiveness and I totally agree with you. I was married 17 yrs and did anything for him and he turned around and lied and cheated on me with a co-worker and now he's living with her. Our divorce was final the beginning of March and at the end of March she moved in with him and her divorce wasn't even final yet--she walked out on her 2 kids and her husband for him - a loser!! Now they are living together and he told my boys--they might as well get used to her becuz he's going to marry her someday--like he knows anything about marriage--she's already gone thru 2 husbands--what makes him think she'll be faithful to him? But by forgiving doesn't mean we condone what they did to us it just helps us take it away from us and let a higher power deal with it from now on--becuz they will stand in front of God someday and answer for what they did to all the people they have hurt!! It's so hard to forgive and even harder to forget!! Good luck to you and take care.

hi, welcome to d360. let me know if i can help with anything. there are a bunch of things you can do to get started here. here's what i usually do. every day i log on to the site to see what's new. so... 1. i log on and come here, to the MyStuff/Profile page. i can quickly check to see if anyone has made a comment on my questions or my blogs from this page. and i'll click back to comment on their comment. 2. from there i check my scroll (at the top of this page), to see what my friends have been doing. the more friends you have, the more activity in your scroll. it helps. 3. then i change my status...up there by your name. maybe i'm drinking coffee or about to get lunch or whatever. as soon i update my status, it hits my friends scroll...so they know too. 4. then i'll maybe add a new question. scroll up there to the Advice area on this page and click Add New. when you do that, your question gets posted onto the home page of the site and onto the community home page of the site at the same time. so every member can see it, read it and make a comment. 5. later, i'll add a new blog...scroll up to blog and click Add New. blogs are usually longer and more detailed. some members write about what is happening in the divorce or life after divorce or whatever. the advice area is really about questions that you want answered today...right now. 6. after that i'll start reading some questions. just click on the big Community Tab at the top of site and start reading. i really try to answer as honestly as i can, i know that everyone here would really like some answer to their questions. So if you see someone without an answer, try to see if you can help. you know, your perpsective is helpful. 7. then i'll move over to the Blogs, that's just a few tabs to the left of the Community tab. i'll read some blogs and post my comments too. 8. Then i'll go and write on some of my friends walls. and maybe even some new members walls too. The wall (that's what this area is), is really a semi-private area for members to make personal notes/jokes etc.

I am finally 99% finished with the divorce. All that is left is the state income tax-(mine) and proving that he has changed the life insurance, leaving me 1 X's his salary in case he dies. After 36 years, I deserved all of it! I thought I would be totally over it without the ongoing stress of the divorce. Why am I so depressed? I am finding myself feeling just as sad now as I did at the onset of this mess. Is this normal? Does anyone have advice? When will it end? I truly want to feel happy again. By the way, the jerk married the adulterous girlfriend 4 days after the divorce was final. Dropped me from his insurance the day after it was final. I feel like I was pushed out of the car door at 100mph. Just dumped as quickly and cruely as possible. I guess it is hard seeing him so happy when he has made my life so miserable and questionable regarding my future.