Keep reaching for that high road Christa.It's hard but worth every bit of it.You have so much life and love ahead for you,don't become defeated! Yes,time does indeed heal much of this hurt.The only thing in my situation is seeing my 1 st wife after being divorced from her for 26yrs.She left me and has remained single this whole time,she dates and parties from what I know but she appears so unhappy.I will never get it. In the interim,I had a relationship,long term and a second marriage.Yes I am hurting like hell now but I am encouraged and hopeful of finding the elusive true love.In my case the time is running short for me being 54. You be patient ma'am,it does ease with time.

Christa,the high road is hard but it also has the greatest reward.Everything else falls short.I know it is so very hard but it is worth it.Just today the feelings of loneliness has raised its ugly head.I really hate this phase of the process.It has only been 11 days since the wife and kids have left my home.I know that this is in no way real.Yes,I miss the physical intimacy,not sex as much but the touching and cuddling and kissing. In reality I have not had any of that since March! I think it is more from the fact that in 10 more days we will be divorced..My sense of loss is overwhelming creating this false sense of loneliness. Hang in there young lady,I'm pulling for you.The right way will guide you to a much better relationship.

Christa,that is the hardest part of everything.I look fondly at my ex wife(1st).She is still single and she lives in a different state.A couple of my sister's still have a relationship with her.She divorced me not them.So she has been to several of my family functions,weddings and funerals.All are respectful towards me.My sisters never discuss anything they talk about.Yes I would love just once to have a conversation with her but it will never happen,its been 26 years. As for this second marriage...well it was 15 years between my divorce and dating.I wanted to raise my children first. I have only been intimate with 3 women in my life.My second wife was just out of a divorce with 3 children ages 5,3 and 1.I figured yes I can do this.Three years of dating we got married,on the altar it changed immediately,and I have been trying ever since.I have to divorce her in order to survive literally.My stbx and her children are monsters like you can not believe.She has bpd a mental disorder and will not treat it at all,in fact refuses to accept the diagnosis.The children have rejected all I brought to them as she has.I pulled the strings and got her employment at the same government agency as I and we make identical income.She blows all of it.Her ex skipped the state and has not had visitation in 10 years and is 112,000 behind in support payments. In spite of all this she is fighting the divorce and demands 43,000 from me!!! Christa,I will recover,I am in therapy and have a strong support network.My adult children adore me and are protective towards me because they witnessed a lot of this. I want to be able to date and have another relationship somewhere in my future.