Merry Christmas to you Brand - I hope you get to enjoy it fully =)

Hey, Brandx, I totally know what you are going through and time will make it easier but when you really love someone, I don't truly think all those bad feelings go away.....atleast they have not for me and it has awhile. For some people it is easier but I honestly think it just depends on if you really had deep feeling for that person. Cause its so hard to stop thinking about it sometimes. But it does get easier and you do find away to live with your feelings and continue on and be for the most part happy. Write me if you ever need to vent.

Hey Brandx, I am posting here because I'm not talking about myself in this case but my friends, and I can tell myself I'm not airing it out in public. Your post was hard and has alot of people hurting for you, as I am, also. It also made me see that my situation may not be so bad?! I have 2 friends that found out their husbands were having affairs within months of each other.(this happened about 6 yrs ago) I watched as they fell apart, the weight slid off, anemic, black circles under their eyes. I held their hands while they were in the dr office getting checked for std's, it was horrible, like a death. One left their spouse, one stayed. My friend that left is a happy person now, she has raised her daughters, gotten back into her church, gotten involved with support groups, made new friends. My friend that stayed is happy too for the most part, but she is always on alert, wondering will this happen again, has it already happened? Plus he is military so whenever he is deployed its like a roller coaster for her, she has alot of bad days. So I just wanted to share and give you some food for thought as you did me. Best of luck, shelgos