HI BD - I am concerned about your husbands latest antics. The accessing of your computer and the stuff he printed out doesn't sound very incriminating to me. You haven't been cheating and the in the IM's you even say NO. The bit with the mutual friend who came on to you and tried to initiate is also odd, since the friend got a NO too. He says he doesn't love you like a wife, yet he is jealous. That is clear. He is behaving like a jealous husband. The bit about talking to God is odd. Especially when he says that God has told him through a neutral person that he is on the right path... The only thing this reminded me of is 12 Step programs. One of the tenants of 12 Step is being on the path our Higher Power has placed before us. The neutral person could be a sponsor. Is your husband attending a 12 Step meeting of any kind? Was he an alcoholic, addict, gambler, or some other kind of addict? I am at a loss to explain this. If he isn't attending 12 Step does he have a family history of mental illness of any kind? I am really reaching here. Can you think of anything?

Hi BD - Thanksgiving may be wierd. Give yourself a great deal of pampering before you go. Plan an escape in advance in case you find it gets too stressful. You don't have to use it, but it will make you feel safe... just in case. Do you have any health insurance? If you do, maybe some counseling is covered for the kids, and you if you need it. Does your school district have a school psycholigist? Some schools have one who comes in for a 1/2 day or so here and there. You might ask the guidance counselor. It is normal for your younger one to feel insecure and want to sleep with you. Keep an eye on it. It may resolve itself as time passes and he adjusts. I have to find that blog I wrote for you. Best - Lisa

BTW - if your husband thinks love should be like it was in the beginning... lusty infatuation... then he hasn't really understood what love means. Love changes over time from the initial stages of obsession and lust to a deep passionate friendship. I wrote a blog about love. When I find it I will post it on D360.