I read some of your advice and thank you for it. My husband just told me tonight after 15 years of marriage he wants out. I am a stay at home mom with two kids 8 & 11. I havent worked since i was pregnant. I have no clue what to do , any help is apprciated

Morning Bella I agree with you about the law being the law and that you have to pay to equalize the salaries which is fair when the debt responsibilty is equal. As for her temp support and legal costs, there was no hearing and the amounts awarded was an abritory decision by a magistrate. My lawyer was shocked with what she received and we are appealing it as they did not take my ability to pay in consideration. She earns a really high salary, lives in a luxury two bedroom apartment, has no dependents and I am paying most of the debt. This of course will change once we have our pre trial hearing. The worst is she cheated on me and based on the current law she is being rewarded for what she did. Marraige is a contract betrween two parties. If you break any other contract there are penalties. In your case I agree your husband should be paying as he commited adultery .. my stbx is getting away scott free which to me is unfair .. In Ohio I will be paying alimony for 3 years which I have accepted but it will nto be as high as her temp support has been. Thank you for your comments

*groans* Bella, while I feel the pain of your experience--I have stood by so many here from the day they found out about the affair through each step of healing--your experiences have very little to do with what I was describing. If you want another perspective, read sjg's blog following mine, entitled "Is Cheating Justified? Please read this..."