Ask Spaznskatz. She's an attorney. I don't know how you get him to move. Did you talk to the bank about this? Is his name on the mortgage as well? I know if you go to court you can get post separation support, but be careful. If you make more money than he does you'll end up paying him. If he makes more he pays you. Child support is figured on relative incomes and who has custody. If you make more this won't help. If he makes more and you have the child, the court will order him to pay you, but it won't be much. The sooner you can get some kind of separation agreement in place the better it will be for you. Until you do, it's possible you could be responsible for his credit card bills. Did you document your leaving him? That could help. I wish you all the best in this. If you want to vent, send me a note.

Hey Barba - I came to your page to find out more from your blog and noticed you had posted a note on your own wall. No one will be able to see this unless they come here. You may want to copy this and go back to your blog and add it so everyone can get more insight to your situation. I haven't read it yet but I will now. If you can't figure how to move it from your wall to your blog lemme know.

I walked out of my home with my son about 1,5 moths ago. We are staying in our friend's home, unable to return to our own. A day before I left, I 've learnt that my husband had a new girlfriend and... me at the same time. I asked him to leave, he agreed and changed his mind the next day. It felt like someone had kicked me in the stomach. When asked why didn't he leave and "enjoy" it on his own, the answer was: You are a h... and I knew that you would like it. I had to leave. Prior to it we discussed divorce couple of times and he always managed to change my mind. Along the way I"ve learnt about his adiction to pornography (couple hours a day), problems at work and school - he suppose to graduate but is failing courses. Everything was covered up with lies and passwords. Most of his salary goes towards paying credit card debt, but I'm not suppose to see credit card statements. he doesn't see any problem with this on top of opening and charging new credit cards. I pay the house morgage, groceries, our child's expenses. He - phone and electricity, when he feels like it. A week after we left, he put an add to rent rooms in our home. People moved in! I Kicked them out. He doesn't pay bills and the morgage at the moment and doesnt' want to move out. I can't come back for 2 additional reasons: my son was exposed to his pornography and I don't want him to experience it ever again; when I returned home to talk to him, he was very abusive verbaly; He gave one of our dogs away and threatens to do the same with the rest of our pets. My attorney just served him. I work and attened school full time. I don't want to have anything to do with his but to return home, take care of my son and finish school. I feel so used. I didn't know who was I married to.