My Story ::  sjw329

How Did You Meet?

we met in a local restaurant, him there with his friends and I with mine.  we worked in the same place so we knew each other but really met for the first time that night.  We ended up staying up all night talking and getting to know each other better.  We were inseparable after that.....we met on Oct. 4th, got engaged on Feb. 14 of the next year and were married in May....the first 7 years were a fairy tale, 2 wonderful girls, he was so attentive and spoiled me rotten.  Everyone we knew was so jealous of our relationship....it was perfect.

Describe your marriage before the problem.

see above

Tell us how you first realized you had a problem.

he decided that he had always wanted to go to medical school.  I urged him to go for it, and supported him all the way, from finally finishing his undergrad degree, to getting his pre-med classes done (2 years) and then all the way through med school and residency.  During this time, he was also obsessed with triathlons, running, swimming, biking in his free time.  Oh yeah, and he kept working his 40 hour per week job the whole time.  He was gone 99% of the time and had no time or need for me in his life.....he chose his hobbies over me.....

What did you do about it or if you have not done anything yet, why?

I begged, I pleaded, I became jealous, critical, judgemental, letting all my hurt out on him for not wanting to be with me anymore.  I was (and still am) so unbelievably lonely......

If you're not yet divorced, what is your greatest fear?

Loneliness.....I am so scared.  
and the rejection is so hard to take after being together for so long... I don't know who I am anymore....

If you're not yet divorced, what two tips would you share with others?

i don't have anything to share yet....it's too new (May 25 was the day he told me he didn't love me and hadn't for the past 2 years)

If your divorce is final, what was the hardest part of the divorce?

If your divorce is final, what two tips would you share with others?