He said he was an open book and a good person. Neither one of which would prove to be true...
How Did You Meet?
We met Friday night at Mezzanote in Coconut Grove a late night dinner-dance club. Ralph said he spotted me as soon as he walked into the club. In retrospect, he was a shark sizing up his prey. Later he confessed he had observed my rejections to other men approaching and persistently, scoped my whereabouts until he could get an introduction. He had the waiter place only one chilled glass with a bottle of champagne. I asked what was the occasion? He said the club was full of sharks and they were all circling me. He told me not to worry that he sent the champagne with one glass so that I would know he was sincere and there were no strings attached or expectations. I was free to drink the champagne myself or with my friends. Saturday, was our first date at Jeffrey's restaurant near Lincoln Rd on South Beach. When we arrived, Jeffry greeted us at the door and told me I was even more beautiful then Ralph said. We became an instant couple on that that first date. By Sunday, we were having dinner with his parents, brother's and sister. Two weeks later he took me to Puerto Rico for a weekend gateaway and asked me to marry him...eight months later, I did.
Describe your marriage before the problem.
Tell us how you first realized you had a problem.
What did you do about it or if you have not done anything yet, why?
If you're not yet divorced, what is your greatest fear?
How subjective family law is. We are at the mercy of the judges prejudices, perceptions and personal experiences. Not enough guiding LAW, no definates...it is all subjective. At our most vulnerable moment we go thru an uncertainty and too often unkind family law court system. The same set of circumstances heard by two different Judges can result in opposite outcomes.
If you're not yet divorced, what two tips would you share with others?
Take control of your case. Look up credentials, ask for referrences and speak to them before you hand your life and that of your kids over.
If your divorce is final, what was the hardest part of the divorce?
Women are still told how to "look for the judge" dress down, look humble, not too much makeup....are you kidding me??? Where is the Law there? Etiquette and dress code are acceptable. Playing the part of the good little woman in order for "fair and equitable distribution" to be fair and equitable is not . It continues to frighten me at how much discression and absolute power of sole Judgement is allowed in FL Family Law Courts.
If your divorce is final, what two tips would you share with others?
It should not have to be this hard on either party. Beware of FL law regarding child custody in effect October 1, 2008.