My Story ::  PepsiQueen

How Did You Meet?

At a party and 3 years later we ran into each other at a Bar. He called 2 days later and we started going out...He ended up moving in and we did everything together. 

Describe your marriage before the problem.

We had a great marriage, so I thought. The only issue that concerned me was that he had been into trouble with drugs, but I wanted nothing to do with that, so he had a choice me or the drugs.. and he wanted me. As time went on..he would do it behind my back and often lie about it, and I was feeling like his mother and not his wife. I am now realizing that I should have never dated this man, until after the fact... he went from cocaine to drinking... to spending money, and affairs. This was done all behind my back.

Tell us how you first realized you had a problem.

I first noticed how often he was drinking, and how I was the one who didn't get to drink because I had to be the Driver. If I made it a point to say it is my turn to drink and you have to drive...while he would drink behind my back like a teenager would do. Hoping I wouldn't notice. The drugs were only a problem when he would be around his friends.

What did you do about it or if you have not done anything yet, why?

If you're not yet divorced, what is your greatest fear?

I have a PPO on him, so I don't worry to much about him hurting me anymore. I guess his secret life frustrated him and I was the one he took it out on. My greatest fear is trusting anyone ever again.

If you're not yet divorced, what two tips would you share with others?

Make sure you get a Credit Report done every so often. I found out the day before I made him leave...that he was $20,000.00 in debt, all done behind my back. Also, make sure that he doesn't have a P.O. Box Address, this is how they hide the bills from you. One last thing that I would demand is to see his paycheck stub. It took 8 years before I finally got to see this, and it made me sick to see that he had a savings account, a tool account, and he kept $250.00 a week for himself, and I went without... for that selfish bastard.

If your divorce is final, what was the hardest part of the divorce?

If your divorce is final, what two tips would you share with others?