My Story ::  MelindaFreiman

How Did You Meet?

We met at a Disco.I was a disco competitor and he was a good dancer, charming and fun.

Describe your marriage before the problem.

We were in pursuit of the american dream.  He was my first child who would sire me two beautiful children.  We were both emotionally immature.  There was sexual, mental and emotional shame & guilt we carried from our conditioning and beliefs as children.  When our kids were under 3 yrs. old, Hurricane Andrew blew our house away and we relocated to an orthodox area.  I began to pray to god to give me tools to "cope" with what/who I had chosen

Tell us how you first realized you had a problem.

After we moved, he spent much of his time traveling for business and would come home grumpy and tired, emotionally distant.  I placed my energy into the kids, into our new religious lifestyle and my personal pursuits for peace (yoga & holistic lifestyle). 

What did you do about it or if you have not done anything yet, why?

We tried counseling, but to no avail ~ I surrendered and accepted him for his limitations.  I chose to stay, to pray and to see him as the beautiful (albeit suffering) soul that he could be.  Unfortunately he didn't see it...

If you're not yet divorced, what is your greatest fear?

If you're not yet divorced, what two tips would you share with others?

If your divorce is final, what was the hardest part of the divorce?

I was a practicing yogi  before the divorce and was guided to try a deep form of yoga which led me to Kundalini yoga Teacher Training as i was going through the divorce.  Although it is not my main purpose, I had developed "my higher self" as a resource to deal with the pain.  I ended up negotiating much of my divorce from the heart space I was opening to.  It was hard, but I let it work for me instead of against me.  I won what I wanted, I let go and let god show me the powers I was yearning for.

If your divorce is final, what two tips would you share with others?

Find a Divorce Coach you resonate with to show you the way back to wholeness.  Create way's to reconnect to yourSELF.  Mine was a spiritual practice.