My Story ::  macandmadismom

How Did You Meet?

Mutual friends in college

Describe your marriage before the problem.

I guess we always had problems, I just wanted to be married and have a family, that I over looked ALL of them.

Tell us how you first realized you had a problem.

When I answered his phone in college, and the voice on the other end said "who is this?"  I said "his girlfriend" and she said "no I'm his girlfriend" - YEP, should have ran like heck at that point....but didn't.  It was the 1st call like that....but DEFINATELY was not the last.  He was verbally abusive to me, constantly putting me down and belittling me.  He would say I was fat, miserable, how do I get up every morning and look at myself in the mirror, tell me I needed anti-depressants.  He told me I could never live on my own or raise the kids without him.  He REFUSED to go to counseling.  I was always alone with the kids while he went on "business trips".

What did you do about it or if you have not done anything yet, why?

I went to counseling by myself, and realized that I didn't need anti-depressants, I needed to be away from him.

If you're not yet divorced, what is your greatest fear?

No Fear

If you're not yet divorced, what two tips would you share with others?

If your divorce is final, what was the hardest part of the divorce?

Dealing with him and his girlfriend trying to manipulate my children. She's been married 5 times before, so I'm sure this one won't last more then 5 years...IF THAT

If your divorce is final, what two tips would you share with others?

Don't put up with CRAP!
LEAVE!!!  Start over again!  FROM SCRATCH!!  It is all just JUNK that you would have put in a garage sale in a couple of years anyway!