My Story ::  lifeinpurgatory

How Did You Meet?

He was doing a job in the town I live in.  Me & my girlfriend was at local bar, he was there w/co-worker.  We met, played pool.

Describe your marriage before the problem.

We only knew each other 6-wks before we were married.  He seemed the quiet, laid back one and I have always been full of charisma, energy so I thought it was a great match.  But his was a facade.

Tell us how you first realized you had a problem.

One week after we were married.  My friends in L.A. held a recep. on penthouse rooftop for us.  His jealousy (for no reason, I had introduced him to everyone before that), insecurity, temper started to creep out.

What did you do about it or if you have not done anything yet, why?

I kept trying to instill security and trust with him (later on I found out HE was the dishonest one...).  I thought if I involved him with every phone call, every interaction, he'd see how faithful I was.  I think because he was untruthful, he was paranoid.  He's very obsessive too.  Very.

If you're not yet divorced, what is your greatest fear?

1.  Used to be 100% career, financially independent woman.  He said I couldn't work, that HE was my job.  So I have no finances though he makes a crud-load of money.
2.  More importantly, I'm 44 yrs.  I just wanted to settle down and grow old with one person.  I went thru my dating life, had relationships, had kids.  I guess I don't really want to go and meet, date.  Every guy thinks I'm at 10-15yrs younger than what I am, so that sets the whole thing wrong from the beginning. 
Bottom line - I think if I get a divorce, I won't meet/date again and I don't know if I'm ready to be alone the rest of my life.

If you're not yet divorced, what two tips would you share with others?

1. Never get with someone you can't share your most intimate thoughts without them throwing them in your face and using them against you at a later date.
2. A liar lies...ALWAYS.

If your divorce is final, what was the hardest part of the divorce?

If your divorce is final, what two tips would you share with others?