My Story ::  Kitten1981

How Did You Meet?

During my first month of college, my roommate and I threw a party.  I'd seen him on campus and wanted to get to know him. So we invited him and his friend.  We started hanging out and were dating two months later.

Describe your marriage before the problem.

I think there's always been a problem.  I'm just now realizing that no matter what he says he's not going to change.        

Tell us how you first realized you had a problem.

I really noticed our two largest problems one year into our marriage.  My husband had just been fired from a really good job (of course according to him it was not his fault).  Instead of getting out there and looking for a new job he spent most of his time at home drinking and playing computer games or looking at porn.  He was building up lots of CC Debt that he hid from me purchasing porn, online games, movies and CD's when we couldn't pay our bills.  We've been going up and down with this now for the last 3 years.

What did you do about it or if you have not done anything yet, why?

I keep trying to talk to him and work on his addictions together along with working together to pay off the debt and work on financial goals.  Up until now that's all we've done.  Why? I keep hoping he will start resembling the man I know he can be!

If you're not yet divorced, what is your greatest fear?

I'm afraid of not ever finding someone else to love/who loves me.

If you're not yet divorced, what two tips would you share with others?

If your divorce is final, what was the hardest part of the divorce?

If your divorce is final, what two tips would you share with others?