Roomates
How Did You Meet?
Karaoke bar--she sang, I listened.
Describe your marriage before the problem.
3 on a scale of 1-9. Little in common, poor "connection", periodically very unhappy wife, generally not unhappy husband, unsatisfying sex life.
Tell us how you first realized you had a problem.
At pretty much the same time, we both developed a "crush" on someone else and then became very depressed during the aftermath.
What did you do about it or if you have not done anything yet, why?
Both are taking anti-depressants. I am doing individual counseling. We did couple marriage counseling briefly, but wife bailed.
If you're not yet divorced, what is your greatest fear?
Two really: financial loss, and being alone.
If you're not yet divorced, what two tips would you share with others?
1) You can't unscramble eggs, but you can whip up a pretty tasty omelette from the mess if both of you learn to cook. 2) You can't fix it by yourself; if spouse won't participate (especially after you've done the "by yourself" thing for long enough), move on.
If your divorce is final, what was the hardest part of the divorce?
If your divorce is final, what two tips would you share with others?