My Story ::  Dorene-Page

How Did You Meet?

We met at work.  I was a freshman in college and he was senior in high school.

Describe your marriage before the problem.

We had everything we could have wanted.  We had our own home, two nice vehicles, a boat.  We got along great.  Hardly ever fought. 

Tell us how you first realized you had a problem.

When our first was born, he was jealous of the time I spent taking care of her.  I thought that had passed.  Four years later, when I became pregnant withour second, it all fell apart.  When I was five months pregnant, he supposedly went to dump a load of stuff we at the landfill, and didn't come home till late that night.  He told me he went to check on his mom's house and wasn't feeling well.  He said he fell asleep.  After me pushing for the truth, I found out he spent the day with a woman he worked with.  It was four years of back and forth hell and constant lies from that point on.

What did you do about it or if you have not done anything yet, why?

I tried to forgive and work it out.  He said he wanted to work it out, but kept his woman on the side.  He left and came back three times.  He would be out to all hours of the night and had a nice list of lies ready for me.  I don't think I ever really believed them.  Though having a young daughter and infant son, I wanted to.

Finally, after he disappeared for three days because he said he was "driving" around Indiana, Michigan and Illinois thinking, I told him to leave. 

If you're not yet divorced, what is your greatest fear?

If you're not yet divorced, what two tips would you share with others?

If your divorce is final, what was the hardest part of the divorce?

Other than the pain and sheer numbness of the final separation, I'd say it was facing the end of what I had once thought was the perfect life in a court in front of a judge.

If your divorce is final, what two tips would you share with others?

Please take care of yourself first.  If it doesn't feel right, it isn't.