My Story ::  bailee

How Did You Meet?

we worked together at a grocery store when we were both 18

Describe your marriage before the problem.

for the first 3 months not bad but i did see right before we got married that he had a horrible temper when he flew off the handle and cussed his Father    

Tell us how you first realized you had a problem.

4 months after we were married he came home in a bad mood from work ,i tried to joke with him, i ended up with a broken jaw, he was the baby of the family ,the only boy, and his mother and 2 sisters doted on him,he always got everything he wanted and i came from a very religous and strict Christian home,very controlling parents, (they loved me very much) to a very controlling,mean,spoiled man.

What did you do about it or if you have not done anything yet, why?

i left for 6 months after he broke my jaw, then went back due to my parents saying divorce is not in the Bible, blah blah, he never physically hit me,he pulled a handful of hair out and may have smacked me a few times,but he never broke anything again,but verablly and emotionally he abused myself and both of our children all 39years. after 2 years of therapy i NOW know that is called co-dependency. after my ex's co-worker called me in 2007 and told me the affair had never stopped, i went home confronted him he beat the crap out of me trying to find out who my "spy" was, i his in the basement until he went to sleep and grabbed some clothes and ran.i filed for divorce 2 weeks later, i waited until my face cleared up,i did not have him arrested because i did not watn to embrass my children as they just live across town, and my son-in-law in very prominent here. divorce is over and you can read everything else in the question at the first of this area.

If you're not yet divorced, what is your greatest fear?

please see all the info i have already given you at the first.

If you're not yet divorced, what two tips would you share with others?

If your divorce is final, what was the hardest part of the divorce?

If your divorce is final, what two tips would you share with others?