Marriage.  Hmmm.  Sounded good in theory, but it didn't work out so well for me.  Well it didn't work out so well in the marriage part, but as a human being I have evolved and grown in ways that I can only look back and be thankful.  I divorced when my kids were 1 and 3.  I am rapidly approaching the ten year mark. 

My kids now almost 11 and 13!  If you would have told me when I first got divorced that I would not be remarried by now I would have thought you were out of your mind.  Today, I think that for my kids sake, I'm glad I haven't.  Of course I haven't found exactly the right guy or relationship yet.  You see I think that during the last 10 years I have been shopping for three of us.  Of course I want something that is good for me and helps me grow and will last long beyond when the kids grow up and leave away.  But for this time when I've got kids in my day to day life, that relationship must fit well for them as well. 

I would consider marriage again if it is something that is right for all 3 of us, not just for me.  I would love to find a relationship that will set the example to my kids of exactly how a relationship can be done and done well.  But unless it is going to be exactly that, I'm not settling.  I'm too important and so are my kids.