When I locked myself out of my house a few weeks ago, I got to know one of my neighbors a little better and we are now friends.  She recently told me that she has an inoperable brain tumor.  She is now the second person I know who has this.  She is living alone with her young son and has been going through chemo a few times a year to keep the tumor from getting too big.  When she is taking the chemo she says it just wipes her out and makes her sooo sick.  While she was telling me this it made me realize that divorce certainly isn't a tragedy.  Sure, it feels like it at first, but there are so many other awful things that you could be going through.  You hear about bad things happening to people all the time on the news.  It really helps you put things in perspective.  And as I get closer and closer to becoming single again I have been seeing that ray of sunshine getting brighter and brighter.  I have so many things to be grateful for: my two boys, my health, family I am close to, and friends I have from all walks of life (childhood, church, neighbors, married friends, single friends, etc..).  I find that doing my best to stay positive and focus on the good things in my life really helps a lot. That, and setting goals for myself and making plans for the future.   You really need to feel that you are working toward something positive in your life, it gives you something to look forward to.  There is still life to be lived!  Go grab it!