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Help!!!!!!!!!! 

I am hurting so bad right now.  I am only a week or so into my divorce and I feel so alone.  The temtation to find someone new right away to comfort me is so strong I even checked out on of those dating websites.  I wanted the divorce because just to give a little background he is a navy man which is not as bad as it sounds unless you marry a navy man like mine.  He would go out to sea and forget he had a family at home.  I am sure he has cheated a couple of times but I have not taken the steps to find out because it would hurt to bad if my suspicions were confermed. I want to talk to close friends and family but they are in hate mode and just want to tell me things like screw him you can do better and not just be a person to confide in.  How do I get past this point because it can not come fast enough.  My heart is in peices and I put on a happy face but I am dieing inside.  Help!!!!!!!!!!


by Kristi  4 Posts 
Posted on 6/27/2008 12:04 AM
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Resist the urge (I feel it too).  I know deep down, I need to move forward in my life but also to be careful not to rush back in to another bad relationship.  I am still sorting the mess in my mind out, and all the while I want to replace her with anyone (anyone who I believe can make that empty void go away).  I've got to find out who I am by myself before I can go looking for miss right! :)  try exercising and taking up a new hobby or something of that nature.
by blee   96 Posts
Posted on 6/28/2008 9:38 PM
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No magic cure for the pain... we have been there and understand.
PLease do not date until it has been much longer. Take time to heal ....there are many emotions that go along with divorce. Take care of yourself...you need it right now.
Find a girlfriend to do things with..
Talk to us in here. We have been thru it and are going thru it.
by mtnvly   717 Posts
Posted on 6/28/2008 4:41 PM
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I just did not think it would hurt this bad.  I assumed I had hurt so much already in the marriage that the end would be a relief.  I am throwing myself into my work but some days are good and I will not think about him other days I feel so down and can not get him off of my mind.  I hate that feeling like he has moved on and I meant nothing to him but I guess I cannot expect him to just open up and want to talk to me after all he never seemed to do they during the marriage. 
I want to thank everyone for their input it really helps to know others have been where I am at and want to help me by telling me how you all coped with the same situation.  Keep the advice coming I can ues all I can get from non-bias positive sources.  Thanks.
by Kristi   4 Posts