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6/25/08 

I wish I wouldn't have found out about the latest revelations about more affairs nor the herpes infection she has.  It really did set me back, but I'm recovering.  I wasn't living the lie, she was.  Her unwillingness to be honest person with integrity is on her not me.  I just have to realize that I did the best I could with the information I had.  Had she ever said anything about being unhappy maybe we could of worked on it.  I look back on all the cards, notes, letters she gave me about how wonderful I was to her and think why did she do it if she didn't mean it.  All it did was tell me I was doing the right things.  Obviously I wasn't but didn't know.

I've learned so much about myself during the process and have to remember to continue to work on myself.  Don't get caught up in her drama and irresponsible behavior. Be there for the kids, my friends, and family.  Don't beat up myself or get into pity parties.  Own what is mine and let go of the other crap. 

The woman I loved no longer exists. 
by falcon81  185 Posts 
Posted on 6/25/2008 11:46 AM
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Tags: Honesty , pity , self , love
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I do not have any of the STD's.  I personally hope that my STBXW is well above average in outbreaks and severity for many many years.  I'm sure somehow she is blaming me for getting this disease as nothing has ever been her fault.
by falcon81   185 Posts
Posted on 6/26/2008 9:43 AM
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To you and all who have been cheated on, I hope that in the midst of all the games being played by out stbx's that none of us got the gift that keeps on giving.  I was amazed that my wife still wanted to sleep with me knowing she was not being safe with the other man (before i found out). So far I haven't learned of any std's between us.  Thank God!!!!  

I hope all is ok on your part falcon81.
by blee   96 Posts
Posted on 6/25/2008 11:47 PM
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