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6/24/08 

Well after feeling better yesterday, today is very much falling backwards.  I cried for the first time in weeks as I had been doing so well.  Learning of the other afffairs has me reexamining everything.  Right now all I can think is that I want revenge.  I know its just anger and will subside.  But all this really hurts.  She has shown no remourse or even concern for others.  She manipulates the kids then abandons the.  I am beginning to think she is a narcissist.  What ever she needs in the moment.

I need to get her to be willing to sell the house.  I feel as if she has the complete upper hand.  There is nothing I can do legally to make her sell the house it seems.  Yet she can move out and I'll be stuck with paying her and all the bills.  Why isn't there some recourse for her actions in this state. 

I'm going to dinner at a friends house.  He's been through this and has been a big help.  It will help just to talk and get his input. 
by falcon81  330 Posts 

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I live in CA which does not recognize adultery as a crime.  Since she hasn't worked in 10 years and she is making minimal attempt to I'm stuck supporting her.  I've been told not to close accounts, change beneficiaries, etc...  When you are dealing with someone as irresponsible as her who refuses to work on anything to get this done its difficult.  I'm basically screwed no matter what I do right now.
by falcon81   330 Posts
Posted on 6/24/2008 6:10 PM
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Everything comes back and slaps me in the face occassionally. I will go for weeks and then it is back again. It will get better as time goes by.
I don't understand why you still have to pay everything when she has cheated the way she has. Is it the state you live in?
by trisha9054   1949 Posts
Posted on 6/24/2008 3:42 PM
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I have dealt with the same thing my ex who is 35 decided that she would rather be with a 50 year old co-worker.  The narcissist part is right on.  She told a mutual friend "I know what I am doing is not right but, it makes me happy".  At least you seem to have a handle on it I thought it was all my fault until 3 days before the divorce is final.  I think it is great you are journaling I do mine offline but it sure helps to put things in prospective.  All you can do is be the best person you can be.  You can't control others.  The only control you have is over you.  When you know you have been the best you can be and done the best you can, you will realize that the remaining issues are with the other individual.  But that will give you peace because you have been and done the best you could.  The last thing be there for the kids they may not say it now but the will realize who has their back.

 
by pht0644   5 Posts
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