It's only been just over a week since my wife told me she was divorcing me. At first I was pretty casual about it, mostly in shock I think. The emotions hadn't hit me yet, and I agreed it was for the best. I still believe she is probably right, but I really can't help but feel that there is still a marriage there worth saving!

I think in my situation at least, I've caused too much emotional damage to her for her to ever get past with me, and I have to respect her decision to leave, even though it means my world flattens for a while. I also realize that she has just as much time and heart invested into this marriage as I do, so I know this had to be a difficult decision for her to make as well. I'll move on, I know my wife and I will be able to be friendly with eachother - we both know that carrying disdain for eachother only makes things harder.

I'm sure this is a common feeling, but I will always love my wife! I miss her so much already, and we are still living in the same house together (it's a big house, we are sleeping in separate rooms). At least until she moves out, which I know is going to be very hard for me to deal with - it's basically the publically visible sign that she's gone forever.

Yesterday I tried to get her to talk with me, to see if maybe there wa any way of trying to work things out before going through with a divorce. She told me basically I had used up every chance she was willing to give me, to accept the fact that it's over, and to give up trying to change her mind. I just can't give up yet, even though I know I should.

My wife hasn't exactly been the ideal wife for me, either. She worked 9 years on an opposite shift, just moving to the same shift as me (days - I'm an Engineering Manager, she's a factory worker, different companies). We've been on the same shift as me for 3 months or so. I know she made a sacrifice to do so, but I feel like since she did, she has resented me for it since. She knew well before we married I was an office worker, and she told me her factory work was only temporary while she went thru college. Almost a decade later is a long temporary! She has NO idea how hard that was for me, nor do I think she ever had my feelings at interest. We read a book by Gary Chapman called "The 5 Love Languages" last year - life changing! That book helped us to understand a vital part of a marriage, and it did help, just too late apparently. We learned that my language, or how I knew she loved me, was "Quality Time", meaning her investment of time into our marriage was the most important thing for me. After having to stay up past midnight for 9 years just to spend any time with her, and getting up by 6:30am to go to work, I don't think she will ever realize the sacrifices I made to try to make a good marriage.

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