Divorce Can Open You Up Emotionally...Even if You're a Guy! 

In my twenty-six years on this planet, I have seen my mother cry probably over a million times, and I've seen my father cry twice.  Once when we had to put our cat to sleep, and once when he was remembering his father on Columbus Day.  Does that surprise you?  Probably not.  Men are just the more unemotional gender.  They bottle up their anger and sadness, eat a roast beef sandwich and go to the gym.  Women cry to their girlfriends, eat ice-cream and watch soap operas.  It's just the way of the world.   But divorce, I've recently learned, can open you up emotionally.  Perhaps too much so.

I came across a really funny essay in which a divorced guy blames his newfound ability to cry during movies, on the emotional rawness of his divorce.  The essay was entitled "Why Divorce Makes Movies Better" by Aaron Hoal.  I was immediately intrigued.  Apparently, Mr. Hoal wasn't much of a cryer until his divorce, which then opened up the floodgates.  And now those floodgates have a hard time closing!  He discusses how he now cries at movies all the time whereas before the divorce he never did.  But he discusses this with such snarky witty humor and good writing that I couldn't help but ask him if I could share his post with all of you.

Keep in mind that he does use some foul language, so it might not be suitable to read at work or if the kiddies are standing over your shoulder, but it really is a funny and interesting piece, about how sometimes it takes a big thing to shake us into remembering the small things.  I think its sentiment is something we can all relate to. 

Here's the link:

http://www.thisisby.us/index.php/content/why_divorce_makes_movies_better