Yep, that was the topic of conversation this weekend.  I was alone on Saturday so we (about 7 girlfriends) decided to get together and have some fun.

Inevitably the topics were all over the place:  kids, fashion, shoes, men, sex, relationships, divorce and then ex's. 

Some of us are divorced and in relationships, some of us divorced and single, some of us single, some of us married but should be divorced.

So the topic about ex's was interesting.  None of the women, who are divorced and in relationships, complained about their ex husbands yet all of the women who are in relationships with divorced men complained about the ex-wife. 

The women who had something to say are ex-wives themselves so I thought it was funny to hear the complaints.  You see, I have an ex-wife in the picture too. 

Do I complain about her? Yes, I used to but I don't anymore.  What's the point? She is the mother of my boyfriend's children.  If I expect to share a lifetime with him then I better start expecting a lifetime with her.

My girlfriends don't see it like that.  They say that there comes a time when you have to move-on and become the "mother" and not the ex-wife.

OK, maybe that's true.  But who determines that time?  and I wonder, is my ex's new wife having the same conversation about me?