Well, I guess the honeymoon over at my ex's is over.  He called me to tell me that he can't keep the kids on Sunday night.  Says the wife made plans to have dinner at her folks and didn't tell him.  He said he'd rather not take the boys over there. (I am sure there is a back story there).  So he and the boys are going to enjoy Saturday night movies & Sunday Brunch.

I told him that it was not a problem.  I'm actually alone this weekend. My b/f took off for the weekend with his kids to celebrate Father's day.  So, I guess I will prepare a wonderful dinner for me and my boys. This wouldn't be the first time my kids celebrate Father's day with me.  A while back, Mark disappeared and we spent many days, like this, alone.  My b/f asked me if I wanted him to cut the weekend short so that we could all have dinner together.  Of course, I said no.  He needs the time with his kids and I really enjoy the time with mine.  If God wills, he and I will have plenty of time for "us".

Mark didn't want to say why the kids couldn't go for dinner at his new in-laws.  He said he would talk to me about it when he had more time.  And so it begins... the world of new in-laws, grandparents, step-families.  I knew it would not be easy but Mark said "everyone loves one another! you will see how great this will be!" 

My outlook isn't negative but I know this takes time.  You can't force people on one another.  It must come naturally and especially with children and not to mention children of divorce who have already gone through a lot.  Besides, you can't con children, they have great intuition and will follow it.  They know who likes them and doesn't.  They feel it.

Am I worried? No, not at all.  If Mark's new in-laws have a problem with our kids - well, that's Mark's problem.  My kids have a home here -- with me and my b/f and our doors are always open to them regardless of which weekend it lands on. 

All this is new for everyone so we must all be patient.  I just wish everyone would stop saying:  "it's going to be fine, you will see".  Well, sure it will be fine but not in a few weeks.