Lost - how do I go on after 25 years of marriage. 

I know exactly how you feel.....My husband left me on March 2nd after 30 years of marriage....3 grown sons one grandbaby and one on the way......He threw his whole family away for his office manager....I filed for divorce on March 10th and pre trial is on the 24th.... It has just been a little over 3 mos. and I have good and terrible days...I try to analyze things, and I just always come up with banks.....How does someone you have trusted and loved for that long, who is literaly entwined into your heart do this?......It hurts to leave him there, and it hurts to try to remove him when he is so deeply embedded into your very 'being'......How do they not care? Well mine is in a midlife crisis...acting like he is 28 and living in a bar every night with his new g/f....I jsut don't get it either....When in the Dawn of our golden years, it was to be 'all about us'....and he does this? How can they "rip" you out of their hearts in just a matter of a few months after being married for so many years....I am sorry you are going through this, there is no easy way to get through it other than ust putting one foot in front of the other every morning... I hear what your saying about your kids to....My boys are all married, and they try to be there, but they really don't get it either...I mean, they are very upset with him, but they just want to know Mom is going to be OK...Its sort of out of natures realm for your kids to see you curled up in a fetal position on the bed bawling her eyes out.....All I can say to them when they just ask what they can do.......Is " LEARN from this...........Do Not EVER do this to your wives "......Thats the only good thing that can come out of this.....If they can just learn from it... As for me, the last thing I thought I would be doing was starting my life over at the age of 50.....I am angry, very angry....sad, lonely, just emotions all over the place.....Just know you can come here and vent al you need to.....Thats what I am finding out...

I am sorry you are going through such a sad time.  I understand what it is like to love them/hate them/want them/detest them!  My husband walked out five months ago and it is easier and harder depending on the day.

Best wishes