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Unbelievable!!?? 

As I sit here typing I just can't believe it .It doesn't seem real to me.How in the hell do you go from I can't stand to be without you to I can't stand to be around you? I could see if I beat you ,lied to you,stole from you,had some kids outside the marriage(after we were married)or if I was a lazy do-nothing who was always looking for a job but i've done nothing but love you and protect you and take care of children I had nothing to do with?I took on the role of "stepdad"so good that when we are together you can't tell who is or isn't my biological kids?I sacrifice all for you and I can't even get basic human affection? It just about takes a court order to get a kiss or have sex?I am sick of feeling unappreciated! I didn't get married to be alone!Everywhere I go I go by myself,to the movies,the mall,weddings, church functions,if people didn't attend our wedding they wouldn't know i'm married! I'm sick of it! A relationship is supposed to be at best 50/50 but this has turned into 80/20.I give you 80 and I should just be tickled pink that I got anything at all?!?Women no offense but you need to stop making your current man pay for sins somebody else committed! If I didn't do it  then why am I paying the price?There is more to this story but it would take all night to finish so I"ll finish it another day
by C2  15 Posts 

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Comments for "Unbelievable!!??"  (4) (You must be logged in to answer)
I have done everything humanly possible besides just leaving to solve this problem.I still love her but I can't stand to be abused(Emotionally) anymore!All I want is for someone to love me back as much as I love them.Thats it !I am angry bcuz i am hurting so much.How can you try to do evrything right and it all turns out so wrong?
by C2   15 Posts
Posted on 6/5/2008 5:53 PM
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Is this her second marriage and your first?  The expectations, hopes and dreams of a first marriage were shattered for her before she met you.  You were full of hope.  Sure, all people have "baggage" when they come into a marriage but the first marriage promises something special.  Let me just say that I read your message and find you to be a hero among men for being willing to be a stepfather and provide.  You are a good person, don't forget that.  She sounds like she has turned bitter and needs help for old and buried problems.
by wokeupstupid   6 Posts
Posted on 6/5/2008 4:53 PM
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Ask yourself, where do emotions and feelings go about a bad first marriage?   As a woman tries to give her kids a stepfather and make a new life where are the unresolved issues?  Eventually, they pop up.  That's probably why a second "good" husband can often pay the price.  Women and men try to keep their chin up, put a good foot forward but sooner or later we run out of gas.  Is she willing to see a councilor to look at her own issues of disappointment, rage etc?  Is she willing to see you more clearly?  Are you too humiliated to go on?
by wokeupstupid   6 Posts
Posted on 6/5/2008 4:43 PM
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I know you are hurting and angry but we can't change other people. They are responsible for there own self. I don't know why others hurt us. In some way she is hurting either from you or some one else. Talk to her.  I really don't know much to give anymore advice. Is she the one who wants the divorce? Do you still love each other? Are you wanting to make it work?