my thoughts...this is day in and day out! get rid of it....how 

have been with my husband for 10 years, been married for 2 years and still going until all the paperwork and court is finalized.  My oldest son is 11 years old, he found out at the age of 10 when my husband knelt down and told him that he was not his father, looked him straight in my son's eyes and told him that.  That day forever burned in my mind and I am sure my son's as well. Like I said he has been "daddy" since my son was 9 months old.  We do have another child together who is turning 9 and he has contact with him because its "HIS".  My whole in law side of the family have totally disowned my oldest, but my youngest is still part of the family.   So I took the boys with me to my new apartment in the same town.  My boys are split up...my youngest stays with him every other weekend and my oldest has me...every single day of the week.  The process has started, a few weeks ago,  because I have both boys living with me and I see not one dime. Its not about money, I am not a money grubbing whore, like he says I am, but I am thinking of my kids and the things they need, food and snacks and all the things school needs from you, health insurance...Yes I PAY for all of that plus all the bills at my place.  While he gets off easy with his girlfriend and her 3 kids and my kids get nada.  Maybe I am bitter about that whole girlfriend situation, but I am happy in my place.  The things I know she does is not a good place for my boys to be and her girls are disrespectful to my kids and myself.  My husband is thrown out of their place like every other weekend when he has our youngest son, because she doesn't want to be bothered with kids.  he then calls me asking if i want to make love...what am i some sort of whore?  then he goes back with her...