Well, he did it. Against my wishes, and my 14 year old. And without consulting our 6 year old's therapist. He introduced HER to my children. My daughter was blindsided. She handled it pretty well. She isn't the one who told me about the meeting though. She told my sister and her cousins and my sister is the one who told me. I am still in shock. Now our 6 year old doesn't really want to talk to him on the phone, and he wonders why! It hurts me and terrifies me to think the damage he is causing my children. I say my children because he is putting his own and his girlfriend's own selfish needs before the well being of my two children. Did I say I was in shock. I haven't really reacted. I will probably wait until they are gone on their next visit which is tomorrow night. We are not agreeing on summer schedule and things are not finalized and it is getting worse. I can't stand the thought of my children around her. She is old! He left me for someone more than 10 years older than me! I could understand someone younger, but older??? Back to the kids, I don't understand how our lives have gotten to this point. The laws have given him more rights than he deserves. He left, he doesn't deserve the latitude and rights that he gets. He gets to pick and choose what he wants, but when he doesn't want to come to a soccer game because he doesn't think "it is a big deal" what does that mean???? When he doesn't take off a holiday...when it is his scheduled time....what does that mean....I am so confused. My life is spiraling out of control. I feel like I can no longer protect my children. I am their mother, not her! She doesn't deserve to spend one second with them. I am devastated. I was the one committed to my family and marriage through good times and bad. I didn't go looking for another man to make me feel good. I don't understand why he gets a free pass in this mess he has created. This is his world that we now have to live in. He has created this new world, new life, new circumstances that we must all adjust our lives to. I need to pray. Pray to God that he will protect my children.