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Changing His Values 

I wonder why such a really nice man can be so sweet and nice to everyone,running his business on integrity and trust, and then turn around and show different values? Does this man seem to have a problem in life, or was he just putting on a show for all to see? It amazes me that he was such a person of wonderful values, yet he was such a liar and a cheat in his personal life. Did having another woman make him this way, or was he this way and I just didn't know about it? Did he compromise his values because he wanted to please someone else? What makes a man/woman all of a sudden change what they believe in?
by Deborah-Trevino  378 Posts 
Posted on 5/20/2008 7:33 AM
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That is the question I will struggle with for a long time. 

HOW did my stbxh become "this" man?  He was truly a good man and then he devolved into someone who does things that he would have found reprehensible a year ago.  The exact same acts he is committing are the ones he used to come home and complain about regarding his co-workers. He was always so appalled how someone can ruin a family and be so selfish.  NOW he says that he NEVER said anything like that.  How quickly history is rewritten.

The hardest thing is just to wonder - where did he go?  Where is the man I loved for 27 years?  WHere is the man everyone looked up to?  Now I am left with nothing but questions and a puzzle with WAY too many missing pieces.

I keep thinking there has to be a tiny little kernel of the man I respected and loved left deep in his soul.  But for the past nine months I sure haven't seen it. 

I think my stbxh had to change in order to align himself with his new "values". He certainly couldn't be the man he WAS and be the liar/cheater and mean mean man if he didn't.  He has to slip into this new skin in order to justify who he was now.  Of course he says he is no different.  Oh the many many lies he tells and a lot of them are to himself.
by Mb   196 Posts
Posted on 5/20/2008 12:19 PM
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