My boyfriend is so tender hearted.
He has faithfully been to many of his 3 kids activities that they are in. His ex says that she can't " because she has to work". Even though many of  the events don't begin until 6pm. She gets off work at 5pm. They are all fairly local.
Anyway, his youngest son has been competing in his schools track meets. My bf goes and cheers. ( I am not allowed to due to the separation agreement but would be there if I could). He transports them. So far he missed none of the meets, only one of his daughters games (because it was raining and he assumed it was canceled).
Last week was the sports banquet for his son. He excitedly figured out what to take for the meal. I helped. He was thrilled to be able to go, as his previous work schedule did not allow it. ( He was a truck driver and many nights didn't get home til very late. )
He received a text at 3pm the day of the meal from his son that "she was mad because of the dish and the drink". We were puzzled as to what that meant and he called him to find out what was going on. His son said he didn't know why. He didn't know if "she " was going. My bf told his son to call him when things were settled and they knew what was going on. We prepared the dish, just in case. Previous times , she would cause a scene if my bf showed up to these things. He was so hurt that to protect his children from this happening again, he would miss the awards part. He sat and cried.
What to you say to someone in this situation. I hugged him, told him I loved him, and that I wish that I could go. I said if it were my children, no one would stop me. She will get tired of the scene. Good grief, the kids ALREADY don't want her to take them places.
And the end of the story....he got a call. She was not going so he was allowed to take him. He took his food, dreading picking up his son , as she often meets him in the driveway to shout out orders. She told his son she was having them "watched" in case I would show up.
His son received 21 ribbons...he was able to enjoy it.
The day before, he received a call from his daughters school. His ex had removed the restriction not allowing him to pick up his kids. His daughter needed to be picked up after she finished a test. He told them ok, just to call when she was done. When he got the call, the light danced in his eyes and I realized, that was the FIRST time ever that had happened!