How it started 

My wife and i own an all cash business selling produce in several locations.
 We had trouble over the last few years, we were married 15 years may 13th.
I also own another business that was quite lucrative, and developed the past 2 years to be quite successful then came to a screeching halt last december.
 My wife pretty well ran the produce business for a year with limited involvement from me.
We always had the same fights, the reports from the produce business showed big shorteges, she was skimming the money, and sending it to her former country the phillippines. She accumulated quite a nest egg.
 She got to where her friends became more important than coming home to me and our 13 year old son, we fought about that.
 She blew money left and right making it hard to pay bills, we fought about that.
 She was always irritable, treated my son and me like second hand garbage, we fought about that.
 The fights went on for two years until finally, on april 17 th, we had a fight ( about the way she treated me and talked to me ) she went outside called the police and said i hit her in the face, I was arrested, their eveidence was her chapped lipps.
 Next she put a restraining order against me, effectively cuting me off from all our business locations, and the money, our home, and our son.
 At this point i was angry, hurt, and devistated. I cried for days.
 She kept all the money, took control of our business, had the house, our son, and had her freedom to hang with her friends. She even took all the vehicals and left me stranded. Her frieds had told her she could do this.
She told everyone she wanted a divorce, but as time went on, i found out that she wanted to take control of the business  (MONEY), go to the phillippines for a visit and by then i would be begging her to get back together and forgive all.
 As I sit here now my new truck was reposessed, i have no money for food, electric, or even to get through next week. But allot of good things have happened for me.
 I have now through the advice of someone on this site found a lawyer who is willing to handle my case, and let me pay later.
 my soon to be ex, out of stupidity signed an agreement giving me the house back, custody of our son, and two of our produce locations, of course the ones that do not make any money this time of year, but it's better than nothing.
 I got one of the vehicles back, so at least i have transportation.
 There is not much chance of her getting primary custody of my son now, and my lawyer said i will likely get alimony because she cut me out of the business, and child support.
 My son refuses to be around his mother, not even for the visitation, and actually told her yesterday that he never wanted to see her again, because she refused to give him lunch money.
 She has only spent 3 half days with him in 9 weeks.
My soon to be ex has been investigated by the dept of children and families 4 times for leaving him alone in dangerous places, and she will be served the divorce papers within a couple days now.
 then we will have a hearing to get temporary child support, and alimony, so things are progressing.
 My ex will now have to buy me out of our business, and it has been valued at $ 90,000.00 I had no idea it was worth that much.
 All this really hurt me because i love her allot, it is hard to let go after all these years and at some times i felt i would suck any level of S**t  if she would just come home. Now i am glad that i am getting away from her.
 I hope someone can use this information to help you make any decisions.
i will keep adding to the journal so you can follow the case.