Marriage counseling does give answers, sometimes not ones you expect. 

A stranger once made a comment to me that I didn't know would later become a very critical piece of information.  She said, "It takes two to make a marriage, but it doesn't take two to break it.  It can take just one not trying."  I don't know why I filed that little tidbit away in my mind, but years later when one of the many "aha" moments of my crumbling marriage struck me, it became crucial. 

You see, I was lucky enough to have a husband that was willing to go to marriage counseling.  I had two kids under the age of 3 and I really wanted to save my marriage.  After about the 3rd visit, my husband announced that this marriage counseling stuff wasn't doing anything and he wasn't going back.  I continued without him, but all the while in the back of my mind that stranger's comment was lurking. 

I tried to explain to my husband that we did not get into this situation overnight, and that we wouldn't be getting out in just 3 counseling sessions.  He didn't buy it.....and that was just another thing that led me to the tipping point.  So I don't know if marriage counseling works or not, but I do know that in the long run, it got me right to the point of the decision I needed to make. 

You see, she was right.  I didn't want to have a marriage where one person just quit trying.  So eventually I left.