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I feel like a loser 

After 25 years of marriage, somehow I feel like the loser. He's the one who cheated and now he is going out drinking every single night. I guess it wouldn't be so bad if our divorce hadn't been final on November 20th and I am still living with him in the same house that we can't seem to sell. I feel like hell and look like it also. I have no motivation for anything. I don't feel like seeing friends or family and I cry so much. I am really miserable and I don't know what to do.
Any advice?


by Linny    
Posted on 5/15/2008 9:35 AM
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i am going through what you are, yes i think you are getting depressed, try going to a support group they have them at most hospitals. They get you out of the house and you can listen and discuss many of your feelings there. I been going for the last month 2 times a week and it is helping me alot with my depression. Or you can just intrduce yourself and say nothing it depends on the way you feel that day. You are reaching out already by being here. Keep up the good work.
by camero  90 Posts
Posted on 5/15/2008 1:53 PM
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I agree with everybody else Linny.  First off, I've seen your posts. You offer good advice, you care about the welfare of others, you seem pretty smart really.  These are not the usual signs of a loser.  I wish I could have these loser qualities! 

You really need to get out of the house.  By staying in the same place you're letting a bad situation drag you down.  It's like staying in the house of a dead relative while eating their food and wearing their cloths.  You're not allowing yourself to heal. If this were a horror movie the house would be screaming "GET OUT!"  Heed the House, Linny.

It doesn't matter what or where, Everybody is right, if you can get out for a few days, do.  Honestly though, even if you force yourself to go to the park, beach, or mall for an hour, that's fine too.  I make sure to go to my local bookstore, sit in the coffee shop and write.  It makes sure I'm in public. 

I would also recommend you start talking to a counselor. You're starting to show some of the signs of depression.  Although you have ever reason, and I think we've all been there, depression can be an endless cycle, and it feeds on itself getting worse and worse.  Talk to somebody.  Let this out.  If you're going to be in the same house, you won't be able to let this go, at least get yourself an outlet.

And don't forget we're all here for you too!
by Robert-Boyd  1614 Posts
Posted on 5/15/2008 11:59 AM
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I agree with the others, and it is easier said than done. (allow some time to morn then focus on the time to heal)  Just know that you are not the only person on the planet that this very situation is happening to. What you don't see now, is that there is light at the end of the tunnel.  There are plenty of people right here right now that will  tell you they were where you are at today. Do your very best to pull your self together, then go on an all out quest for life.  You are not a looser! (and get away from anyone or anything that makes you feel otherwise.) smile! I promise you'll get one back :)
by blee  69 Posts
Posted on 5/15/2008 10:52 AM
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