Husband Playing custody card 

I have heard of some people sharing custody of children by splitting the week in half but never seperating the kids.  I think seperating the kids like that would do them more harm and I wouldn't think a judge would agree to something like that.  Dealing with an angry, spiteful spouse is very hard and takes a huge toll on the psyche.  I hope everything works out well for you!

the one good thing about this...and maybe I am still being nieve is I don't think it would come to that....I would rather see my kids together...and with their father...he is a good dad most of the time...a bit too harsh on discipline at times...than drag it out and put them in the middle.  Than fight and fight to keep them with me...and see them split up, and wounded further in the end...than have each other to gain strength from what ever parent they are with...don't get me wrong...I WANT MY KIDS!!!  I think they would thrive better with me and my extended family...but I WILL NOT PUT THEM THROUGH A LONG HARD COURT BATTLE just to make my husband happy!!

"..." - The legal system is not about justice or equal but it is about a perception of equity in many cases; and, it could very well play out that he may have a standing possibility to have joint custody but not necessarily in the manner that he has indicated to you at this time frame. Be prepared for a long and drawn out battle considering that your spouse has already made a reference of two by two... The process that will most likely occur is that the children may have legal representation looking out for their best interest in light of the fact that the parents are at odds with how to pursue their parental roles... Anyway you look at this from this very early stage, it does appear that there will be a minimal of four victims of the separation and divorce process unless two adults find a way to lessen that negative impact as their children are play out as pawns... I wish you well... I wish them well...