And it goes on. At least I have shut down some of it.
He gets a call today...I have to talk to you she says( which really means I have something to say and I will dominate the conversation. )
S needs to go to the dentist and because you don't have health insurance for the kids ..you have to take her( He does have health insurance for the kids and has had it all but one month while in transition between jobs> little does she REMEMBER that the agreement states that he does not have to cover them if they are not eligible thru his employer ) No she has filed charges that he is not paying it  ( calling it child support btw, when he doesn't have to legally,
He said, I do have insurance for the kids. Call your lawyer and find out , he has the paperwork.
No you don't , you haven't had it since you left your job.
And his reply ...whatever...
She said ..you need to make the appt and take her. It will be $400  up front and she needs the work done.
His reply...I don't have that much money at once...I have other bills I am paying too.
And then ...she says I guess I can put it on my credit card then you can pay me back half.( She had it written in the agreement that she pays the first $100 then they split the rest but apparently does not know this)
He ends up furious and I am ready to take her out. I know why people kill their ex's now. And we , the next "other " women " are told that we need to stay out of it. That it is not our business nor our problem. Well, hello?!?! I see how it affects him. I see how it affects the kids. And all of it tends to run onto me , his significant other.
GRRRR. ...But what did I do??/I said , you know what??? I love you very much. This drama that she brings is affecting me , my home and my life. You have no reason to take her calls. If she wanted to discuss things in a civil manner that would be a whole different ballgame. They upset you and also me. If she wants to talk to you , you have voicemail. Let her leave a message. ( He said " she will call me 15 times if I don't answer" . I told him ...so what???? It does not use your minutes. They only thing she needs to discuss with you are changes in schedules for the kids. That is IT. She can leave a message...you can call her back if it is needed. Take control of your life and stop letting her puppetize you!!!Anything else needs to go thru the lawyer. Tell her to check with her lawyer about the insurance. Tell you to stop calling you unless it is an emergency or change in schedule...Tell her to read her agreement that was viciously drawn up to strip you of everything and follow her own damn rules. This crap is not good for you nor me..I am not making you choose ..I would never do that. Her bs needs to stop. Thank you my friends ...I desperately needed to VENT!