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5/13/08 

Well I have my direction.  She has no inclination to try and work things out.  She is blaming me for all the problems in our marriage.  She even made the comment that the affairs had no impact on our marriage.  I have to believe she is just delusional and in denial about her behavior.

But now that I am sure its time to get after the process.  I asked her to be out by 8/1 or else she needs to contribute half to the household.  I asked her about her job search.  She wants to be a flight attendant but has done nothing to get a job.  I don't care what she does as long as she gets out soon.

I was very hurt and upset last night but today I am just angry.  Not a bad angry, but actually a healing angry I believe.  Now its just about me and the kids.  She can do whatever she wants, but needs to do it soon.  She's never been a doer so I will have to keep pushing her to move forward.
by falcon81  330 Posts 

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Good4Now,

That is terrific advice.  Thank you for taking the time to give it.  I very much doubt she will come running as she is much too prideful and has often run from things in her life.  Its easier if she just walks away and buries the issues.  If she does come  back then I will re-evaluate, but right now its move towards divorce.

Thanks again!
by falcon81   330 Posts
Posted on 5/13/2008 9:18 PM
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You are going through a grieving process.  Anger, hurt, sadness, dispair, rage, are all part of that fun thing you get to walk through.  The key is to not get stuck.  Keep walking.  You can only control your actions and thoughts.  I think setting timeframes and guidelines is key.  Also, have a plan of what you are going to do and when.  It will help.  Accepting that this is the way things are is good.  She will probably come running closer as she sees you detach from the situation.  Stand your ground.  If you give in, you start at square 1 again.  If she really wants to change, she will do it on her own and see what happens from there.  The change will be real because she did it for herself.  However, here is where you are.  You make your plan.  You take care of the kids.  You can count on you.  It will be ok.
by good4now   8 Posts
Posted on 5/13/2008 6:39 PM
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