My kids still have issues from my divorce and I regret that.
I wish I could have done something to protect them from it, but my daughter was subjected to the drama when her friends saw her father “out” when she was nine years old. I can remember her telling me about it as she went from one dance class to the next one, and driving to my Dad’s house and turning over my car keys to him until I had calmed down so I wouldn’t go find the ex. I was so angry at him for getting caught by her friends. She had no clue what was going on until then.
Seven Secrets to a Successful Divorce is a book by Christina Rowe that caught my eye because of this video. They interview her younger three children in a taped session and her oldest daughter appears live on the show with the author.
Her daughter reminds me a lot of mine, so very mature for her age. I’m tempted to buy the book, even though I’m just a little farther out of my divorce than she is with hers. I count myself lucky, though, because her ex was jailed for refusing to pay child support, and I’ve never, ever had a problem with that.
I relate to her story of finding infidelity after 13 years of marriage, and not seeing it coming at all. That’s the way it was for me the first time we separated. Perfect jobs, perfect home, perfect child and one on the way. My divorce didn’t turn as ugly, because I chose not to fight quite a few things I shouldn’t have to keep the peace and the cost down. But we all know that keeping the peace is much easier said than done when your life, dreams, and heart have been shredded by the one person in the world you thought would always be there for you.
Watch the video and check out the book if you are going through this now.
